Five Steps To Getting Your Ex Girlfriend Back
If you truly believe that you and your ex girlfriend are destined to be back together, then to make that happen, you need to do some thinking, some planning and a little learning and research to achieve that goal.
1 - The first thing you need to do is perhaps the most difficult and counterintuitive. You will need to be emotionally strong enough to cut-ff, or at the very least, minimize communication with her. Even though this will be difficult on you, past experience with others in your position has shown that it will be even more difficult on her. After some time has passed, she will very likely begin to think about you and how much she misses you. By cutting off communication, you are immediately putting yourself in a position of control.
2 - Give yourself time to recover emotionally. Even if not communicating with you is killing you inside at first, she'll never know that. By recovering emotionally, you will be able to approach the situation in a mature, calm and non-desperate way. Women almost universally dislike men who come across as desperate, clingy, or needy. Conversely, they are attracted to men who are confident, controlled, and mature. So you'll need to cultivate those characteristics to have any chance of winning your girlfriend back.
3 - If you feel like it, start seeing someone new. Even just flirting and hanging out with a new female friend will get your ex thinking more about you and her relationship with you. Doing this may also seem counterintuitive, but again, it is extremely useful in getting her to start thinking about you again. And that is exactly what you need to be doing at this early stage of winning her back. You benefit by not isolating and it will appear to your girlfriend as though you are moving on which might raise some jealous feelings and get her to realize how much she really wants to be with you.
4 - Act as if you don't have a care in the world. In other words, play it cool. She is never going to start thinking about reconciliation if you come across to her as desperate and depressed. If you act this way, you are handing control of the situation over to her. You must be the one in control at all times. Behaving like you're having a good time, getting over the breakup, are not depressed and make sure she knows that everything is ok with you (again, it may not be, but act "as if").
5 - Look sharp, stay in shape, wear nice clothes, be well groomed. This also adds to the impression that all is going quite well with you despite the break-up. Appearance plays a large role in showing your ex girlfriend that you've moved on. If you take the time to look your best, your ex girlfriend will notice, and will almost always respond positively.
These 5 steps are the beginning of winning your ex back. They've been successfully followed by many others that have been through exactly what you're going through.
More than anything, be patient throughout this process. You'll want things to happen fast. Good things will happen, but you have to give them time.
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