Getting Back Together with Your Ex in 3 Steps
If you're reading this, you or someone close to you have probably had a relationship break up recently and you're wondering how you can get back together with him or her. If you're like most people in similar situations, you want your ex- back NOW, because a) you miss him or her and b) are afraid they might meet someone new. Don't worry, everyone feels the same way in this situation.
The best thing you can do at this point is the exact opposite of what you feel like doing. Don't call, don't isolate, try not to get depressed and cry all day. Instead, start with the 3 basic steps explained below and you just might get the answer to that age-old question "How do I get back together with my ex?"
1 - Accept the Break Up!
First and foremost, you need to accept that the break up has happened. Tell your ex that you're okay with it, and allow the "moving on" process to begin. When you do this, it eliminates a lot of the tension and stress that both of you are experiencing. Your ex needs time to think about the relationship, and starting the "moving on" process will give you time to consider your options. If your ex realizes that he or she still loves you, they'll find a way to reconcile. There's no guarantees, but giving space is what you need to do.
2 - Do Not Keep trying To Contact Your Ex!
After you explain that you're ok with the breakup, don't try to keep contacting him or her. You end up looking desperate - a major "turn-off". Just occasional contact (weekly, perhaps) will give both of you "thinking time". This may seem counterintuitive at first, but by minimizing communication, you are signaling that you have moved on and that you are doing just fine.
This will allow your ex to think about the value of the relationship to them and also allow them to have some time to "miss you". When you can separate yourself from your ex, look and act like you've moved on, that may actually be the time where you get them thinking how important you were to them. They start missing you!
3 - Plan Ahead For The "Get Together"
Once you have completed steps 1 and 2 above and the lines of communication are open again, then you can start planning on a casual get together, coffee, lunch, a drink, something non-threatening and in a public place. Obviously the conversation will naturally gravitate towards the relationship and that's when you can start probing with questions on their feelings towards you, how they've been doing, things like that. This will allow you to get a better idea of whether or not your ex still loves you, and also if there is any chance that you and your ex will be able to get back together.
You should also do some research on those "Get You Ex Back Books".
