How to Get My Ex Back When He's Moved On In 7 Easy Steps
When your boyfriend breaks up with you and tells you that he's moved on, try not to start moping and feeling sorry for yourself. That is not the healthy emotional state you're going to need to win him back. And yes, you can win him back. We've seen it happen over and over again. Here are 7 steps that will give you a good chance of getting him back, even if he's moved on to another girlfriend.
1 - The first step in getting an ex boyfriend back (and by the way, these steps also apply to getting an ex girlfriend back that has "moved on") is to convince him that he still wants you. Sounds impossible, right? It's not. Unless he has made it very clear that he wants NOTHING to do with you, you have a number of options to choose from.
2 - One of the first thing you can do is to change your relationship with him from "girlfriend" to "friend". It will be emotionally difficult, but if you can act like just a friend, he'll be much more likely to keep the lines of communication open with you. And that is your only goal at this point. Show him that you too have moved on but are always willing to have a friendly phone conversation or casual cup of coffee. Show him you can be around him without drama, that you can joke around like any other casual friend and are perfectly happy to keep your "new" friendship strictly platonic. It will be difficult and yes, it all sounds counterintuitive. But frankly, it's your only chance at winning him back. Be patient.
3 - When you do have conversations with your ex boyfriend, be sweet and kind but don't be afraid to throw in just a bit of attitude as well. Your goal is to want him to want you back, but in order to do that, you have to give him the impression that you're in no rush, you're happy with the way things are and maybe you former relationship will reignite and maybe it won't. Don't go so far as to play head games with him, but a bit of attitude of indifference towards him can do wonders in making him more interested in you..
4 - There's a fine line you have to walk here. You're playing a little "hard to get", but also making sure he knows that you are still "available". Don't be hesitant to flirt with other guys when he's around and you're hanging out with your friends, because drumming up a little bit of jealousy helps your cause tremendously. But don't take this too far. If he truly starts to believe you have totally moved on and are not interested in him at all, chances are he won't find the motivation to pursue you.
5 - Above all, never act desperate, and try not to feel desperate inside. He will recognize it and know that he is in control and he is the one calling the shots. If you come across as desperate, your boyfriend may take advantage of the situation for a brief "reconciliation", then just move on like he did before. You need to play it cool. Let him know that you're okay with everything that has happened between the two of you, and that you also are willing to move on. Acting desperate will just send the signal that you definitely haven't moved on and are in fact will to compromise on anything if he'll just take you back.
6 - If you ever catch him looking at you in a public place, be sure to briefly glance over at him too. Look at him out of the corner of your eye for just a moment. make sure you make eye contact, then look away and continue the conversations you're having with the people you're with. This "teaser" glance let's him know that you are paying attention to him and still have some interest, but your interest is in a mysterious "you can't have me" kind of way.
7 - At opportune moments, casually bring up some of the best times you two have had together. Bringing up these memories in him will remind him of how good the two of you used to be together. Definitely don't bring up and bad times. Keep everything positive. try to get him to relive those good times in his own head.
All of the steps outlined above are simple, down to earth suggestions that have worked over and over for others in your exact situation. Winning an ex boyfriend back is definitely not impossible. It is largely a matter of slowly taking simple steps, having patience, not appearing desperate and letting nature takes its course.
Hey guys, read this brief article on How to Win Over Your Ideal Woman And Keep Her Happy if you don't ever want to go through the break-up/make-up cycle again.
