How to Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back - Follow These Simple Steps
Your girlfriend has just broken up with you and you are feeling a wide range of emotions including confusion hurt and anger. Don't worry. Those are perfectly normal emotions to be feeling. The breakup of a relationship is always a dramatic emotional event. Many times, your first thoughts are along the lines of "how can I get my ex girlfriend back". While it's okay to have those thoughts and it is perfectly normal, it is also premature to act on them at this early stage.
You must first understand that you only control half of the relationship equation. And assuming that your girlfriend was the one who broke up with you, you cannot control her feelings or whether or not she is open-minded enough to discuss getting back together with you.
Instead of dwelling on reconciliation, the best thing to do at this early stage is to reflect on your role in the breakup. You need to understand what happened and why before if you can know if there is even a possibility of getting back together. It would be a good idea to enlist the help of friends and family when trying to understand why the breakup occurred. They probably have some insights and observations about how the two of you interacted with each other that can shed light on the breakup. In fact, they may have seen it coming before you did.
If the breakup was a complete surprise to you, obviously that is a sign of some significant communication barriers in the relationship. If you are going to have any chance at getting back together with your ex you will need to understand what those communication barriers were and how they got built up over time. When the two of you first started seeing each other, those barriers did not exist. But somehow they were created by the way you interacted with each other. Knowing how that happened both help you know how to approach your ex regarding getting back together, plus lets you avoid repeating the same behaviors if you do agree to give it another try.
Try not to contact your ex for the next week or two while "the dust settles". During this time make your own list of what you think caused the breakup and what you're going to different if you get back together. If you do try to contact your ex this early on in the process, chances are you will do more harm than good. After all, when a person breaks up with another person they may not exactly be open to having conversations with someone he obviously wanted to get away from. Those feelings can change over time, but for the week or two immediately following the breakup just hold off on the phone calls, text messages, e-mails or any other type of communication.
After a week or two has passed and you've had a chance to reflect on your role in the breakup and also gotten feedback from your friends and family, then it would be appropriate to reach out very gently, and contact your ex in a nonthreatening way. The first phone call should just be a hello wondering how you're doing type of phone call. Don't even bring up the possibility of getting back together. You do not want her to know that this is even on your mind. You simply want to keep the lines of communication open with her in the best way to do this is to first be a friend or while. After that, you can take the next ex at getting back together.
